As I open the inbox to my emails
and sift through the spam, rubbish, cons and my pet hate – chain mail, I come
across another Madeleine McCann appeal. Asking me to share with my friends yet
another updated image of her and yet another heartfelt plea from the parents I hesitated deleting..
This is a truly sad event that I
struggle emotionally with, especially being a parent myself. I want to be able
to empathise with the McCanns at their loss and torment but I cannot understand
how you can leave your small children unattended in a foreign place whilst you
socialise…?? It's a bit like letting your dog off the lead and then acting all
shocked when it runs off!
I've never truly connected with
the parents when watching them in interviews (and I am not for one minute
accusing them of anything). I’m sure as a parent the fearful thought (I have
recurring nightmares) of losing your child has swept across you that takes your
breath and inflicts a pain in the heart of shear panic. I personally think I
would need to be sedated in their situation but the interviews always seem so
cold…or is it that I am sick of the press praising them for their strength, or is it just me expecting more from
them, some sort of remorse or shame or just anything that spells out we were wrong
for what we did but our daughter doesn’t deserve to suffer for it?
Anyone who knows me and has been in
my home have often found themselves locked in (no joke). I lock my front door whilst I am
still in the house to not only prevent my Houdini 3yr old from escaping (and
she can run fast for a wee tot believe me) but to also stop people from just
walking in. If I was to pop across the road to my friends house (and this is literally
15-20 footsteps away) and leave my children alone I would be reported to social
services and perhaps even find myself in trouble with the law….wouldn’t I? I
would be classed as a bad parent….wouldn’t I?
On the other hand I can’t stand
to think of this little girl still alive growing up away from her family,
scared and upset and going through god knows what day in day out for 5 years
now. I am unsure whether I want her to be still alive and reunited with her
family and undergo a lifetime of serious therapy or if I prefer to believe she
is a beautiful angel and no longer suffering with these cruel people who felt
it acceptable to snatch her from her happy life.
All I know is that this is a
lesson (even if we didn’t need it) to remind ourselves of the saying as parents
we need to ‘have eyes in the back of our heads’ when it comes to our children!
Madeleine McCann